Playing chess online is friendly almost all of the time, and a few simple habits keep it that way: use a username that isn't your real name, keep personal details private, ignore unexpected messages asking for money or information, and know how to block or report anyone who bothers you. Here's a plain-English checklist.
This is part of our complete guide to returning to chess after decades away.
Choose a safe username
Pick something friendly that doesn't give anything away. "SlowKnight" or "GardenBishop" work well. Avoid your full name, your birth year, your town, or anything else that could identify you.
Protect your account
- Choose a password you don't use anywhere else, especially not your email or bank password
- Write it in a notebook you keep safe at home, or use a password manager if you have one
- Only enter your password on the real website. Type the address in yourself rather than clicking links in emails
- If a site offers extra security such as two-factor authentication, it's worth turning on when you're comfortable
Keep personal details private
Do not share your address, phone number, or financial information with anyone you meet through a game. A real chess opponent has no reason to ask for them.
Be wary of unexpected messages
Most players will say "hello" or "good game" and nothing else. But as with any website, some messages are scams. Be especially wary of anything that:
- Asks for money, gift cards, or bank details
- Offers a prize, a job, or an investment
- Pushes you to move the conversation to another app
- Includes a link you weren't expecting
- Creates urgency, such as "act now"
Ignore them. You can block anyone from their profile, and report anyone who is breaking the rules.
You decide how much chat you get
Both Lichess and Chess.com let you limit or switch off chat and messages in the settings. If you'd rather simply play, turn it off. It's your game.
Never pay to follow a comeback plan
You never need to pay to play chess online. If a pop-up asks you to subscribe, you can close it. Lichess is entirely free, and Chess.com has a free version too. See Lichess vs Chess.com for returning players.
Be wary of anyone who claims to be a "coach" offering free help
Genuine coaches exist, but if a stranger approaches you in a game or message with a pushy offer, treat it as unwanted. You're under no obligation to reply.
What good behaviour looks like
- Say "good game" at the end, win or lose
- If you play a bad move, nobody is judging. You can resign at any time, and that's perfectly polite
- Leave if a game isn't enjoyable. Another one will be along in seconds
Cheating is checked
Using a chess engine during a game against a person is cheating, and websites check for it. If you suspect an opponent of cheating, report it rather than arguing.
Ask for help
A child, grandchild, neighbour, or friend can often set up an account in minutes. After that, you can enjoy it on your own. Our step-by-step guide to setting up your first account walks through it.
Prefer to avoid the internet entirely?
No problem. You can rebuild your game with a real board and printed pages, as we explain in can you play chess without a computer?, or you can find people to play in person at a local chess club.
A gentle plan, with safety built in
Back To Chess: The 30-Day Comeback Plan includes a step-by-step first-account guide with a "stay safe and comfortable" page, and lets you choose a path that suits you: real board, computer, or online. It's £3.47, with no subscription and no pressure.
Or take the free Chess Openings Quiz to find an opening to try.
